Happy Memorial Day

Remember those who died to make us free.

Via Wretchard, a wonderful poem with an amazing story behind it:

The life that I have
Is all that I have
And the life that I have
Is yours

The love that I have
Of the life that I have
Is yours and yours and yours.

A sleep I shall have
A rest I shall have
Yet death will be but a pause
For the peace of my years
In the long green grass
Will be yours and yours and yours.

Welcome back, Obs

Welcome back, Obsidian.

You dropped off my blogroll when you switched URLs.

A life well lived

I don't normally feature poetry her at GfM:WCMCLFPUAftVoM, but I really liked this poem over at The Thinking Housewife.

I like how the woman in the poem knew instantly that this was her man, and that it was based on his kindness and truth. I'm not saying that all men and all women can know so soon, because they obviously can't. Occasionally it happens like that, but usually it doesn't.

Death comes for us all, my Lord, even for Kings. And a good death largely consists of a life well lived. The woman in this poem lived life well. May we all be so fortunate.

Dalrock catches Match.com doing something shady?

Dalrock has a couple of posts up about a shady blog posted at Match.com.

Fact? Fiction?

So apparently, it's about a 40 something divorced woman who eventually starts dating a rugged handy man type who is secretly a millionaire. And her ex husband begs her to take her back. I guess. I didn't read the blog, but that's what Dally is saying, so I believe him.

Women are not entitled to dates

Hat tip to the Old Beauchamp Brogan Distinguished Professor of Law. I predict this post at The Frisky will be widely dissected by the Manosphere.

Where to start?

First, I'm generally an advocate of more dating. I think more men should ask more women out, and more women, when asked, should say yes.

And by dating, I don't necessarily mean the typical movie or dinner. Men who know Game have a broader understanding of what constitutes a date. In short, it's any time an unmarried man and woman agree to meet up at a specific time and place for a mutual activity when both sides know of potential for further romantic interest. Movies and dinners are usually terrible dating activities because they're so sedentary.

A man today who is interested in a potential long term relationship has to be casual about a date because a woman who senses any whiff of premature formality will react by thinking it's too much too soon and who does this guy think he is anyway. So a woman shouldn't expect a man to show up with his hair combed neatly and a box of chocolates.

The better course is for a man to leave a woman wondering, and nothing is better for that than strategic ambiguity.

Does it suck to be on the receiving end of that? Probably. I don't care.

And I gotta say, I love it when a woman theorizes that a man doesn't ask her out because he's "intimidated" by her or "afraid" of rejection. Guys, have you ever been intimidated by a woman? Yeah, me neither. But notice how "intimidate" and "afraid" is language that ascribes fault or defect to the man. Women never seem to understand that a man could feel ambivalent about her as a long term prospect or wife material. Or that a guy might be juggling a couple of other girls and that means she's not the top priority. Or he might be busy with work. Or busy with family. Or busy with a grad school application. Or whatever. It's always a fault or defect of the man. Unreal.

Also, women don't realize the second and third order effects of turning down an acceptable guy for a date, even if she's not feeling it. That guy, in his early years, will take longer to ask out the next girl because rejection sucks. No, he's not "afraid" of rejection, but yes, he is trying to avoid it (did I mention it sucks?). So if a guy is slow in asking you out, you can also thank the previous women in his life. (And, no, that doesn't let the guy off the hook for being slow if he's interested. A man has to learn to not give a shit.)

Of course, in his later years once he's learned Game, he won't be fazed by rejection and won't give a shit, and will simply seek out the next girl.

The bottom line is that girls are not entitled to be asked out on dates. Do you think guys are ENTITLED to go out on dates with anyone they ask?

Confidence is always necessary, yet often not sufficient

Hat tip to Virgil Kent for this one. Enjoy.

The Washington Post hosts some PUAs

Brother James and his buddies are getting some press.

Also, here.

Revisiting Karen Owen

I just now came across a piece in The Atlantic by Caitlin Flanagan about Karen Owen. The piece is a month or two old, but I've really enjoyed Flanagan's work in the past. She pisses off all the right people. It's a long piece, starting here, but well worth your time.

The key section of the piece is below. What's interesting to me is what Flanagan misses:

"The notion that Karen Owen is good at getting the guy, that she represents something awesome for the future of feminism, is an assertion that cannot withstand a careful reading of the actual PowerPoint, a package that—far more than Owen could ever have intended—constitutes a story, one with a beginning, middle, and very sad end, and reveals her to be one of the most pitiable women to emerge on the cultural scene in quite a while. Her assignations are arranged chronologically in the thesis, and in the arc of experience that led her from Subject 1 to Subject 13, there is a very old story about women, desire, expectation, dashed hope, and (to use the old, apt, word) ruin.

After a freshman year spent in the thrall of the school’s handsome white athletes, something exciting happened: on the night of her 19th birthday, in September of her junior year [ADC: she turned 19 in September of her junior year? Meaning she was 16 when she showed up at Duke? Seems pretty young to me.], one handsome lacrosse player, recently broken up from his girlfriend of three years, bought her “many, many beers” at a Durham club called Shooters, and then asked her to go back to his house to “hang out.” The invitation was thrilling; it’s easy to imagine that the prospect of becoming his next years-long girlfriend was enticing, and even if the night began with some strange twists and turns—such as the man inviting his pals to admire her breasts outside the bar—wasn’t that the way it had probably begun for the last girlfriend? But once they went to his house, and then to his bed, things weren’t quite what she had hoped for: “It was over too quickly. I was probably a little awkward and didn’t really know how to move or what to do. And it was a tad bit painful …”

She never slept with him again—apparently he had no interest in seeing her again—and she was chastened enough by the events not to risk a repeat of them for several months. It’s not difficult to imagine what the days and weeks following the encounter were like: the expectation that he would call again, the anxious and depressing realization that he was done with her. But the following March, she was ready to try again. After many “long looks” exchanged with a campus tennis star on her way to and from the gym, the young man approached her at Shooters and asked her to dance; on the dance floor, he asked her to go home with him. What followed was the kind of one-night stand that changes a woman. He was rude to her in the cab, and things only got worse once they were in bed: “He was terrible, did not even bother to kiss me more than a few seconds, and finished in about five minutes, after which he simply walked out of the room and did not return.” She reports that “absolutely everything,” except for the fact that he was a successful athlete, was terrible about him, that the whole situation was terrible: “I accidentally left my favorite pair of earrings from South Africa. When I texted him this fact, he responded with ‘I will leave them outside of the building for you.’”

The story of Karen Owen is the story of those forgotten earrings. Imagine the moment in which she paused to take them off—her favorite earrings, the ones that came all the way from South Africa and that she took care to remove before going to bed, because that’s what you do if you’re a responsible girl with a nice pair of earrings. [ADC: Yes, the responsible girl going home for a ONS.] You keep them safe. At the very least, she must have imagined that Subject 2 was inviting her to do what Subject 1 had done—not just to have sex with him, but to hang out with him. And then to be turfed out so rudely, so quickly, to be treated with such ugliness afterward. Imagine having been so young and so hopeful [ADC: Imagine being young and hopeful and then things not working out perfectly!], being used sexually and then held in such contempt that rather than see you again, a young man leaves your jewelry outside his building, where anyone could come along and take it.

Subject 2, who was rated a 1 out of a possible 10, is the impetus for the entire thesis. In fact, at the very end of the whole ugly mess of it, after she has become so good at oral sex that she is repeatedly praised for having no gag reflex, after she has learned to crave sex so rough that she’s left battered, after she’s been cast aside over and over again, the final line of the thesis—before her jaunty “Acknowledgements” slide— is another angry remark about Subject 2. Being rejected by Subject 1 was hurtful and embarrassing, but being treated like a whore by Subject 2 is what broke her heart and her spirit, and if you are the kind of person whose heart and spirit can be broken by a one-night stand, then you may not be the brave new face of anything at all.

When everything went to hell, when the thesis was splashed across the Internet, there weren’t any young men by her side to protect or defend Karen Owen [ADC: Oh, really? Should there have been? There were no worthwhile young men in her life before she decided to fuck athletes? Nobody from the dorms or her classes Freshman and Sophomore year? No worthwhile young men at all, so she was forced to fuck assholes?]. It was a man’s job, though, and the man it fell to (goodbye, bold new face of feminism) was her father. He’s the one who told the New York Times reporter who called the house looking for Karen that his daughter did not have anything to say about the situation. What a moment that must have been at the Owen family home, how much it recalls the ending of “The Man in the Brooks Brothers Shirt.” In that story, years after the affair on the train, the narrator’s father dies; the seducer reads the obituary, and he sends her a telegram: YOU’VE LOST THE BEST FRIEND YOU WILL EVER HAVE."

I'm surprised that Caitlin Flanagan, of all people, lets her off the hook. I can understand her urge to be merciful, but Flanagan is usually a sharp writer of tough truths. And the tough truth here is this, every good man has seen this type of situation play out:

1. Good man likes good woman.
2. Good woman doesn't like good man, not like that, not in that way. Good man is a dear friend.
3. Good woman likes assholes.
4. Good woman gets an asshole.
5. The asshole treats the good woman the way an asshole would, i.e., he's an asshole to her.
6. Good woman is shocked and saddened that the asshole treated her like an asshole.
7. The end.
8. Ok, maybe not the end. Years later, when the good man realizes that he failed with her not because he wasn't good enough (and by good, I mean virtuous), but because he was too good, well, that's a dark realization with dark implications. The best thing to do is to keep growing, keep achieving accomplishments, grow in wisdom, gain confidence, and enjoy the company of all the new good women coming along.

How the media sees PUAs

Interesting article at TBD.com today on a DC pick up seminar. There's a lot less snark than I would expect. Here's an example:

"We need daring women,” Kelvin [the PUA organizer] tells the men. “Let's go find them!" “But let's move away from the food court, because there's a lot of security here."

Surprisingly, most of the guys say there are there "to learn how to eventually meet that one special someone." Someone should write about this Game for Marriage concept.

Later on one of the instructors offers some worthy advice:
"Sex is merely the carrot; the whole event is a self-help conference in disguise. The pickup community – they call themselves "the community" for short – has veered away from scripted ruses and “negging,” a concept that teaches men to build attraction by making negative comments about a woman. Now they teach men that they just need the confidence to approach women, coupled with the ability to present how great they already are. And they state over and over: Don’t lie to women. Have a plan, but be yourself.

“Things will happen as long as you have personality, as long as she likes who you are, and as long as you’re not fake,” Speer tells the group. “Most women can see through this bullshit that we try to feed them. So the more bullshit you try to feed, the less successful you are with women.”

I never thought of guess the bra-size game:
"One of Michael Hurst’s favorite pickup moves is the guess-your-bra-size game. But be warned, gentlemen: He says you should always guess one size too high on the cup, and one inch too low on the measurement.

Hurst, the D.C.-based author of Become That Guy, speaks calmly but with a self-assurance that borders on smug. If you want to bed a woman, you’ve got to introduce sexual themes as early as you can, he says. You’ve got to say it with a knowing smile, not too seriously, while exceeding social norms for how long you can hold eye contact. He tells women: Every guy you’ve known since you were 13 has tried to scheme a way into your pants. At least he’s honest about it."

I endorse this Zen-like statement:
“Being bad with women is a symptom,” says James Norton, known professionally as Brother James, one of the founders behind D.C.-based Professional Pickup. “The cause of it is you’re bad with your life, and you’ve got to get your life right.”

On not being shy about approaching women:
"Don’t forget that it is the man’s job to approach women and begin the mating ritual, John Keegan, a lifestyle coach from New York City, tells his group of four. “We’re not bothering them, we’re doing our jobs,” he says. “No one in this world wants anything more than to make a connection. Why shouldn’t it be with us?”

Welcome, Frost of Freedom Twenty-Five

Frost, I wasn't very impressed with your guest post over at Ferd's place, what with your exhortations to hate "God" as a metaphorical construct, even if I agreed with your exhortation to "devote your life to becoming the best possible version of yourself that you can," which I agree with.

I subsequently found your blog.

I encourage my readers (ok, let's be honest, my reader) to check it out. Good writing and some good counsel, especially on the futility of becoming a PUA. We have lessons to learn from PUAs, but that is not our vocation or our avocation. The glory of God is man fully alive. More about St. Irenaeus later.

And Frost, I created a new category for you on my blogroll. If you fit better into an existing category, let me know and I will move you there.

Welcome, Unambitious Male

Tell us more about your name.

Always Be Closing

Watch this every time before you head out.

My take on OKCupid's latest

I love the statistical work at OKCupid. Lotta folks seem to be commenting on their latest post, including Her HUSness. Since this blog needs some content, I'll give it a go. Instead of putting a lot of thought into the merits of OKCupids findings and drearily double-checking the statistics, I'm going to offer comments on the photos of the girls:

Girl 1 and Girl 2 are ranked similarly in appearance, but Girl 1 gets more messages than Girl 2. This is Girl 1:

This is Girl 2:

This is surprising to me. Girl 1 is pretty in a hipster/goth/emo kinda way, but she seems like she'd have a lot of drama. Not Mrs. ADC material. Pass.

Girl 2 is beautiful. She's an easily overlooked type, but she's a good example of how jaw-droppingly beautiful an ordinary girl can be. I like her smile. She seems sweet. Her jewelry is understated and tasteful. The pony tail is cute. The one thing that's odd about this picture is what she's wearing. Is she a cross-country runner or something? If so, her athleticism speaks well of her and it's also a sneaky way for a prudey girl to post a picture with some skin. Thumbs up.




Next up is these two. Girl 3:

and Girl 4:

Not crazy about either one of these girls. Girl 3 does better than 4, but that doesn't surprise me because there's something about Girl 4's pose that I don't like. Maybe it's the almost kissy face that belongs at HotChicksWithDouchebags.com. Girl 3 looks right into the camera. I like that.














Girl 5 is here:

Girl 5 does better than Girl 6, who is here:

Girl 5 has a cute expression, but I'd go with Girl 6 because I like the gingers. She also has amazing blue eyes. It's not really something I look for, but it is notable when you see it.















Now, for the two girls featured at Hooking Up Smart:

Girl 7:

and Girl 8:

Girl 7 is clearly a train wreck. This girl has suffered in the past, and if you wind up with her, you'll suffer in the future.

Girl 8 is very attractive. You can see she is beautiful and happy, and the twinkle in her eyes conveys confidence, vivacious, and if you're lucky, mischief. She might even be smart and funny to boot. So, she might be the total package, the girl of your dreams. Or she could be a total bitch. It all depends on how gracious she is. It doesn't depend on how receptive she is a man's advances. She could still be amazing and not attracted to a guy. Likewise, she could be horrid gargoyle and still be lusting after a guy.

The real choice among these girls in my opinion would be between Girl 2

and Girl 8

Which one is better marriage material? You'd have to get to know each one to make that determination.

More importantly, which one are you strong enough to pull?

Good luck, gentlemen.

Welcome, Badger

You're on the blogroll. Rock on.

Alte on male chastity

Here.

For the Christian man, there are no easy answers on this issue. Ultimately, I think the sacramental grace of marriage is the most effective remedy.

This is the comment I left at Alte's:

Alte,

I agree that delayed marriage is a huge factor. The sad truth of the human condition is, there’s almost no way most men can faithfully live out this teaching. Even a man who believes this, if he is healthy, is going to usually wake up every morning with a throbbing boner. Spiritually, that’s a tough way to start every day.

If a man tries to live out the Church’s teaching, especially during The Long Drought of the years when he is a young man and not yet considered marriage material, he’s going to suffer and fail, repeatedly.

The biggest answers to this problem are the sacraments: frequent confessions, Communion, and as soon as Providence provides, marriage.

But an additional answer is that men, especially young men, need to prepare themselves for marriage as early as possible. For some, that means they’ll be ready when they hit college or the workforce. Others have some growing to do, maybe some demons to conquer, or some tasks or achievements God wants him to achieve. And finally some will have to wander in the desert for awhile until the fullness of God’s time has been revealed.

The tough thing for a Christian man, in my view, is how to remain chaste while building attraction in a woman. If a man wants to be attractive to a woman, he’s gotta have some swagger. All the well-meaning advice to men from those supporting the Chuch’s teaching just seems like so much rubbish.

Welcome, Racer X

I've added you to the blogroll. Good stuff.

Grace Builds Upon Nature

During my time off, I’ve been thinking much about this blog, and where I want to take it. And what I decided is that I want to examine the relationship between nature and grace.

By nature, I mean evo-pysch/Game and by grace I mean the sacrament of marriage. How does a man emerge from the first into the second?

So, from here on out, I’m going to be trying to fit things into those two broad categories and using those two terms as shorthand. If I’m talking about nature, I’m talking about how we as fallen humans and sexual beings act in the SMP. I’ll try to offer constructive advice to Christian men so that their time in nature prepares them for the possibility of that grace.

I suppose that may sound grandiose, and that God doesn’t need my help to confer grace.

Very true.

Nonetheless, I’ll write this as my imperfect offering in the hopes that the young men coming up after me have an easier go of it. A.M.D.G.

Great Alphas and Betas on film - An Education

I finally got around to seeing An Education, starring Peter Sarsgaard and Carey Mulligan.

I enjoyed the movie. Spoilers ahead. Check out IMDB or Netflix for a description of this film.

The most fascinating thing to me about this film was one of the supporting characters, Graham. Graham is a classmate of Jenny's and has a huge crush on her. He's a sweet kid, and smart (Jenny defends him to her father saying that he might be a great writer someday) and they're in the student symphony together. Nonetheless, Jenny is not attracted to him. At all.

Although Graham and Jenny are chronological peers, 16 year olds (she a 16 year old played by a 22 year old actress), they aren't peers in the SMP. Jenny grows to dread his attentions. The most darkly hilarious moment of the film is when she indifferently bids him farewell at her birthday celebration. She doesn't even look up at the guy!

The poor bastard never knew what hit him. He was never in contention, and what's more, he never knew he wasn't in contention.

The end of the film seems to me a bit ambiguous. I don't think it's the happy ending most people think it is. Yes, she makes it to Oxford, and yes, she says she's able to pass as an innocent, but she is clearly dissatisfied with the men at Oxford, whom she calls boys. They're not boys. They're men. They might not be as mature as she would like, they might not be as suave or confident or charming, they may not have finished growing or filling out, and they might not have everything figured out, but they are men. And she remains unsatisfied and unattracted to them.

The ending made me wonder what happened to her. Did she find love? Was it with a peer or an older man? If Graham and Jenny remained single and crossed paths again 10 or 15 years down the line, I doubt he would still be enchanted with her. That would be an education too.

In praise of beautiful women

Both Grerp and Old Philly at Solomon's place had wise things to say recently, as does Alte.

Guys, these girls still exist out there. It's up to you to find them. They're dying for you to find them. God be with you.

Blue Valentine and Roissy's Maxims

Guys,

Commenter Surfed over at CR has compiled a list of Roissy's maxims. Good stuff. And hilarious. And I can't wait to see the movie Blue Valentine.

The Maxims:

Maxim #1a: Women desire men of better quality than themselves.

Maxim #2: Women are turned on by displays of male power.

Maxim #3: Whenever an attractive girl tells you she hates assholes, or describes her experience in the past dating assholes and claims to avoid them now, or recites a laundry list of asshole-y things guys do that she disapproves of, you can bet your weight in gold bricks that she wants you to be an asshole to her.

Maxim #4: Never trust a woman who is missing a sense of humor.

Maxim #6: Never. Make. It. Easy. For. A. Woman.

Maxim #7: Your girl will thank you for your steadfast devotion to your belief in yourself.

Maxim #8: Always assume she is a slut. It helps kick the legs out from under the pedestal you will be tempted to put her on, and it is more often than not true.

Maxim #9: The greater the age difference between the older man and the younger woman, the tighter his game will need to be, barring compensatory attributes (money).

Maxim #10: Marriage is a social mechanism designed to exchange sex for indentured servitude.

Maxim #11: Calling a girl out on her lie accomplishes nothing.

Maxim #12: When the love is gone, women can be as cold as if they had never known you.

Maxim #13: When in doubt, game.

Maxim #14: Female cultural equality = male dating inequality. Female cultural inequality = male dating equality. Human nature says that you can‘t have it both ways.

Maxim #15: Be narcissistic. There is no greater divergence than that between a woman’s stated disapproval of male narcissism and the rapidity with which she jumps into bed with a male narcissist.

Maxim #16: The two fundamental propositions are male choosiness and female abundance. All alpha males have these two mindsets in common. Corollary: Male choosiness and female abundance do not necessarily have to be true for the strategy of behaving as if they are true to be effective at seduction.

Maxim #17: The alpha male thinks and acts more like a woman than a man in matters of seduction. He understands his adversary’s psychology, and uses it to allay her defenses.

Maxim #18: Never talk about getting into a relationship even if she says that’s what she’s looking for.

Maxim #19: Withholding sex is the tactic of a woman who has already lost. It is mutually assured destruction.

Maxim #20: If a woman says the word “sex” in conversation with you or about you, no matter the context, it means she’s thinking about having sex with you.

Maxim #21: Women are more pliable in the company of competing women.

Maxim #22: You have to make marriage an attractive alternative for MEN — not women — if you want the institution to thrive.

Maxim #23: The vagina tingle is the principal moral code to which women subscribe. All other moral considerations are secondary.

Maxim #24: When in doubt, ask yourself “WWJD?” What Would a Jerk Do? Then do that.

Maxim #25: NO girl wants to be thought she isn’t a special little snowflake.

Maxim #26: Never tell a girl how much you make, even if you’re loaded. In case of marriage, keep separate accounts.

Maxim #27: If you want a wife, stay clear of investing much in girls who constantly remind you they like to have “fun, fun, fun” and “get bored easily”.

Maxim #28: The more experience you have with women, the more you’ll know which women have experience with men: It is the inexperienced beta male who is most often in the dark about a woman’s sexual history and liable to be victimized by it.

Maxim #29: Xenophobia is good for diversity.

Maxim #30: Women will not hold it against you for trying to get into their panties on the first night. In fact, they will respect you more for your boldness and willingness to follow your manly desires.

Maxim #31: If you plan on cheating and subsequently get caught, act like a total dick who did nothing wrong. Your girlfriend will then wonder if it’s something she did.

Maxim #32: Commanding women to do your bidding will give you a bigger beta margin of error when needed.

Maxim #33: Women need to test men for their grace under pressure.

Maxim #34: If she’s hot, why would she bother with online dating?

Maxim #35: Never trust a woman’s advice on how to please women. Her advice is designed for alpha men she already finds attractive and from whom she seeks signals of attainability and commitment.

Maxim #36: A woman’s sex and relationship advice isn’t meant to help men; it’s meant to distract men from what really works to attract women.

Maxim #37: High IQ is no inoculation against beta delusion. If anything, high IQ obstructs clear thinking about women’s nature.

Maxim #38: The longer you are away from seducing new women, the harder it will be to seduce one when you want.

Maxim #39: The worst thing to happen to women in America was women’s suffrage.

Maxim #40: Men are becoming ever bigger betas in their dealings with women. Men are losing the leverage to shape and push women’s child-like and selfishly amoral political opinions in logical, just and long-term oriented directions.

Maxim #41: The definition of Inner Game: Hit on every woman who excites you. Make life uncomfortable for them, not yourself.

Maxim # 42: When a girl signals that she doesn’t enjoy blowjobs or sex, do not spend one second more with her. Your libido is too important to gamble on such a girl.

Maxim #43: In their sexual primes women’s attraction for assholes is at its strongest. You can catch a lot of hungry flies with honey, but shit attracts the most well-fed flies.

Maxim #44: If you get sexually rejected, don’t admit it to yourself, and especially don’t admit it to the girl.

Maxim #45: Women will screech louder the closer your words get to damaging or exposing vulnerabilities in their sexual market value.

Maxim #46: Whenever you hear or read the words “gender”, “gendered”, “gendered norm”, “subtle gender bias”, or “increasingly egalitarian, yet there remains…” know that you are dealing with a leftwing moonbat, blank-slate believing fruitcake who cannot deal with the fact that men and women are biologically different from birth.

Maxim #47: Awareness of a woman’s games is a precision-guided weapon in a man’s arsenal of seduction.

Maxim #48: Respect the momentum.

Maxim #49: The rare older woman-younger man pairing is like a lab experiment gone wrong. It violates the natural order of things, and leaves its practitioners emotionally twisted and in a constant mental race to hyper-rationalize their sub-par mate choice.

Maxim #50: Marriage is no escape from the sexual market and the possibility that you may be outbid by a competitor with higher value.

Maxim #51: For most women, five minutes of alpha is worth five years of beta.

Maxim #52: Underneath the veneer of civilized discourse we act in ways that are brazenly self-interested in the short term.

Maxim #53: All kneel before the god of biomechanics, by sword or by surrender.

Maxim #54: When a woman has incentive to lie, she will choose lying over honesty EVERY SINGLE TIME.

Maxim #55: Run for your Life Shit Tests:
BEWARE the classic gun-to-the-head marriage pressure administered by your typical non-descript, rudderless late 20’s/early 30’s woman.
When a woman pressures you mercilessly to marry her, bullying to the point of threatening a break up – this is the shit test of ALL shit tests. Treat it as such – If you fail this shit test, you are RUINED. FOR. LIFE.

Maxim #60: Waving a roll of benjamins at a woman will not give her tingles. In fact, it will often do the opposite.

Maxim #73: When a girl emphatically insists she is so over you, she’s never been more into you.

Maxim #21: Betas pay, alphas split, super alphas profit.

Maxim #39: A woman’s standards are like a house of cards: kick out one from the bottom and the whole edifice crashes down.

Maxim #85: As women’s bodies age and weaken, their rationalization hamsters grow bigger and stronger. Eventually, the hamster is powerful enough to take control of all higher order consciousness.

Maxim #87: The more expensive or thoughtful the gift you give a girl, the greater the risk that she will subconsciously begin to think she is too good for you.

Corollary to Maxim #87: If you are dating out of your league, or you are dating a young hot babe in her prime, you should do the exact opposite of what everyone will tell you to do — *don’t* buy her expensive gifts. Be particularly wary of advice from women. No woman in the world is capable of thinking clearly or impartially on the matter of “acceptable” levels of male provisioning. Even old, fat hausfrau hogs will expect mountains of jewels in offerings from men.

Maxim #105: Where there’s incentive, there are lies.

Maxim #109: Consensual polyamory is a contrived hookup service for undesirable sexual market rejects.

Maxim #198: Use of the word “disenfranchised” or other similar nomenclature of deconstructivist post-modern pablum automatically discredits an argument for serious consideration.

Maxim #200: Chicks dig guys willing to risk an early, gruesome death. Expendability is a DHV.