Hat tip to the Old Beauchamp Brogan Distinguished Professor of Law. I predict this post at The Frisky will be widely dissected by the Manosphere.
Where to start?
First, I'm generally an advocate of more dating. I think more men should ask more women out, and more women, when asked, should say yes.
And by dating, I don't necessarily mean the typical movie or dinner. Men who know Game have a broader understanding of what constitutes a date. In short, it's any time an unmarried man and woman agree to meet up at a specific time and place for a mutual activity when both sides know of potential for further romantic interest. Movies and dinners are usually terrible dating activities because they're so sedentary.
A man today who is interested in a potential long term relationship has to be casual about a date because a woman who senses any whiff of premature formality will react by thinking it's too much too soon and who does this guy think he is anyway. So a woman shouldn't expect a man to show up with his hair combed neatly and a box of chocolates.
The better course is for a man to leave a woman wondering, and nothing is better for that than strategic ambiguity.
Does it suck to be on the receiving end of that? Probably. I don't care.
And I gotta say, I love it when a woman theorizes that a man doesn't ask her out because he's "intimidated" by her or "afraid" of rejection. Guys, have you ever been intimidated by a woman? Yeah, me neither. But notice how "intimidate" and "afraid" is language that ascribes fault or defect to the man. Women never seem to understand that a man could feel ambivalent about her as a long term prospect or wife material. Or that a guy might be juggling a couple of other girls and that means she's not the top priority. Or he might be busy with work. Or busy with family. Or busy with a grad school application. Or whatever. It's always a fault or defect of the man. Unreal.
Also, women don't realize the second and third order effects of turning down an acceptable guy for a date, even if she's not feeling it. That guy, in his early years, will take longer to ask out the next girl because rejection sucks. No, he's not "afraid" of rejection, but yes, he is trying to avoid it (did I mention it sucks?). So if a guy is slow in asking you out, you can also thank the previous women in his life. (And, no, that doesn't let the guy off the hook for being slow if he's interested. A man has to learn to not give a shit.)
Of course, in his later years once he's learned Game, he won't be fazed by rejection and won't give a shit, and will simply seek out the next girl.
The bottom line is that girls are not entitled to be asked out on dates. Do you think guys are ENTITLED to go out on dates with anyone they ask?